Wash. Rinse. Repeat.

I have been waiting to update in hopes that we would have the end to end game plan to share. Sigh.


Wash: Despite Dave's valiant efforts through 3 rounds of testing we were told last Friday he was deemed not a good candidate for kidney donation. Not just for Logan but for anyone. We had agreed if Dave wasn't a match for Logan we would still donate his kidney to someone in need but that isn't an option anymore. Dave's kidneys work 100% when they are together but remove one and independently each only functions at 50%-60%. This means Logan wouldn't get a fully functioning kidney and Dave would automatically drop to Stage 3 renal failure. Not an option.










Rinse: Emotions have gone through an extensive cycle over the last 2 days.  Dave and I had a good cry together on Friday night where feelings of anger and a little self pity were displayed. After a good night's sleep we still were pretty blah the next morning. We talked through the benefits of Dave being by my side supporting our family through the surgeries. I confessed how scared I was with both him and Logan being in the hospital together and Ethan being home by himself that my guilt would have soared to 300 times my normal range wanting to be in all 3 places at the same time. We talked about the benefit of Ethan getting to be with one of us now as we can flip flop between both Logan and Ethan throughout the procedures so they are each getting Mommy and Daddy time. With the help of some wonderful words of encouragement from friends and family on Facebook we grieved our missed possibility quickly and took another deep breath and smiled.

Repeat: Less than 10 minutes after we got the news I had called my brother Jude, the next potential donor in line. With so much love and urgency he immediately answered the phone and said "Am I up?".  Within 30 minutes he was in action and within 5 hours we had booked his flight for testing within the next week. As my sister stated, our family could never be defined as procrastinators. I am so lucky to have such driven people by my side. In 2 days our donor list of candidates has grown from 12 to 18 people. Some of whom are friends of friends and do not know our family at all. This has made me cry. Despite the heart break of Dave not getting approved to be Logan's donor, our hearts are 100% back invested in my brother as the next candidate. When it comes to your kiddos I don't know that parents have the option of being partially invested.

Now that we know the heartbreak, we are ready to Wash, Rinse, and Repeat as many times as it takes to find Logan the perfect kidney.

The Wiesman Family story will be spotlighted through the month of March, National Kidney Month, by the PKD Foundation.  First of several videos and blogs can be found here: PKD Foundation

Much love to all those following along and supporting us.

Ann & Dave