Matched perfectly

The search continues for Logan's perfect kidney . Despite how hard it hits when a donor is not eligible, with each candidate our hearts are invested heavily. We have had 20 friends and family offer to be tested and so far 11 have been eliminated. We currently have 4 in the process.  For those who have offered to be Logan's life saver and our family's hero "Thank You" is insignificant to what you have provided for our family. We feel your love and support.

Our current potential donor is at the infamous test that both Dave and my brother did not pass. We are hoping to have a confirmation on the final medical test by next week. After that, due to schedules, it will be another month before the candidate can travel to do the final 3 consults to get a yes or a no on being a donor. Only after that month can we schedule the nephrectomy and the transplant. So we are looking at end of May/end of June respectively. I have challenged the transplant/donor coordination teams to allow for us to embrace technology and do the final 3 consults remotely using video conference so we can get the final yes/no more quickly.  There is no reason in today's world that we HAVE to be face to face to talk to each other. It is safe to say my "mama bear" is in full force right now.

The emotional state of our family is very high. Dave and I have been so stressed for the last four months it is really taking a toll on all of the family. Over the last month a friend indicated that high stress situations over extended periods of time can put an exorbitant level of strain on a relationship. He said his hope was that we were finding a way to make our relationship stronger despite all of the tension. It was honestly the first time I had thought about how Dave and I were operating together. We both have short fuses these days and get snippy with each other, but we are as strong as we have ever been working through this together. At no point have either of us tapped out in anyway. We read each other signals and even when we are both spent for a day, there is an unspoken understanding which one of us needs to step up to the plate on behalf of the other.

In the 15 years we have been together I have known multiple times I was lucky to stand by such a human being. However, nothing can prepare you for watching your child's health dwindle and be helpless to fix it. To physically see Logan morph into someone that is not the happy go lucky sweetie pie for the last 7 years is heart wrenching both of us. When your child is in pain, frail, and emotionally charged due to this disease, being able to adjust your parenting style seamlessly with your partner to accommodate the unknown is truly remarkable. (Or maybe it is just prep for teenage years. :) ) For those that know Dave, you know how funny, genuine, and understanding he is. For those that don't know him, you are missing out on an exceptional person.

I am grateful that my friend shared his vantage point with me. It is so easy to lose ourselves in what needs to get done, we forget about the person standing right beside us helping us navigate through the "how" each day. In honor of Dave, please give a shout out to him and all he does and continues to do for his family. The strength others see in me is 95% because he stands behind me holding me up.

Hugs and Love from our family,
Ann & Dave

Wash. Rinse. Repeat.

I have been waiting to update in hopes that we would have the end to end game plan to share. Sigh.


Wash: Despite Dave's valiant efforts through 3 rounds of testing we were told last Friday he was deemed not a good candidate for kidney donation. Not just for Logan but for anyone. We had agreed if Dave wasn't a match for Logan we would still donate his kidney to someone in need but that isn't an option anymore. Dave's kidneys work 100% when they are together but remove one and independently each only functions at 50%-60%. This means Logan wouldn't get a fully functioning kidney and Dave would automatically drop to Stage 3 renal failure. Not an option.










Rinse: Emotions have gone through an extensive cycle over the last 2 days.  Dave and I had a good cry together on Friday night where feelings of anger and a little self pity were displayed. After a good night's sleep we still were pretty blah the next morning. We talked through the benefits of Dave being by my side supporting our family through the surgeries. I confessed how scared I was with both him and Logan being in the hospital together and Ethan being home by himself that my guilt would have soared to 300 times my normal range wanting to be in all 3 places at the same time. We talked about the benefit of Ethan getting to be with one of us now as we can flip flop between both Logan and Ethan throughout the procedures so they are each getting Mommy and Daddy time. With the help of some wonderful words of encouragement from friends and family on Facebook we grieved our missed possibility quickly and took another deep breath and smiled.

Repeat: Less than 10 minutes after we got the news I had called my brother Jude, the next potential donor in line. With so much love and urgency he immediately answered the phone and said "Am I up?".  Within 30 minutes he was in action and within 5 hours we had booked his flight for testing within the next week. As my sister stated, our family could never be defined as procrastinators. I am so lucky to have such driven people by my side. In 2 days our donor list of candidates has grown from 12 to 18 people. Some of whom are friends of friends and do not know our family at all. This has made me cry. Despite the heart break of Dave not getting approved to be Logan's donor, our hearts are 100% back invested in my brother as the next candidate. When it comes to your kiddos I don't know that parents have the option of being partially invested.

Now that we know the heartbreak, we are ready to Wash, Rinse, and Repeat as many times as it takes to find Logan the perfect kidney.

The Wiesman Family story will be spotlighted through the month of March, National Kidney Month, by the PKD Foundation.  First of several videos and blogs can be found here: PKD Foundation

Much love to all those following along and supporting us.

Ann & Dave

Sooner or Later

This week has been exhausting. The good news is Dave and I have been sleeping like babies. The bad news is we know more than we have ever wanted to know about kidney transplant. We met with 11 of Logan's transplant team members. The biggest takeaways from this week are as follows: only 6 persons, excluding Dave, Ethan and myself, are allowed in Logan's room to visit during his entire 7-10 day hospital stay, our insurance company can request us to apply for medicare, immuno-suppressant medicines have side effects that are absolutely terrifying, and the surgical options are currently not agreed upon between the surgeon and the transplant nephrologist.

Dave is still in the running for being the donor. We couldn't be happier. Well, we could be if they would move faster. He has his CT Scan next Thursday. After that he has a medical examination; chest xray, EKG, TB skin test and the regular turn your head and cough tests. Then he moves onto consultations with surgery, anesthesiology, and  finally the psychologist. Right now the process seems to be take a test and wait 3 weeks for results. If Dave is the donor my life gets insanely more complicated. I will want to be in 3 places at once; with Logan while he is healing, with Ethan because he will be without his entire family for 7-10 days and to check on Dave and make sure he is ok.

Financially Dave and I have come to grips with the fact that we will hit our insurance's max out of pocket expense every year for the next several years. While this is definitely not the best situation, it can be budgeted at a fixed dollar amount. The good news is we have been planning for this over the last 5 years and have saved donations from family and friends to assist with this. We feel ready. However, insurance can force us to apply for Medicare which makes everything much more complicated. It is somewhat annoying that despite my high premiums, stingy insurance companies can make me go through a lot of red tape because they want to save money not to mention me taking assistance away from someone else who genuinely may need it.

The side effects of the immuno-suppressant medicines Logan will need is terrifying. Ranging from standard nausea to death. Within this span they all cause high blood pressure, "abnormal kidney function", and cancer. Uh... what the heck?! Dave and my expectations of Logan finally being off high blood pressure medicine was squelched with this information. It seems like we are just going to be adding to his list of drugs. His anemia may or may not rectify itself after transplant and if not he will also have to continue weekly shots for the rest of his life. We are trying not to think about the cancer and death side effects due to them be "rare"; however, we know 2 children who have passed away after transplant due to cancer. Maybe we just know a lot of people.

After meeting with both the surgeon and the transplant nephrologist there are two schools of thought on how to move forward with Logan's surgeries. The surgeon wants to do the transplant first, removing the right kidney and inserting the new kidney in one fell swoop. At a later date, he wants to remove the other kidney.  This felt like a good plan when Dave and I spoke with him on Wednesday. On Friday, when we spoke with the transplant nephrologist he was saying it is risky to do another surgery after transplant and he would prefer we remove the left kidney first to see if we can manage Logan's blood pressure by taking out half the problem. This will put a lot of strain on the remaining right kidney and could cause it to lose function faster. The nephrologist then indicated we would take out the second kidney and put Logan on dialysis while we waited for a transplant. Three surgeries sounded ludicrous to us. So, Dave and I proposed taking out the left kidney only after we had a donor identified. Then if we need to remove the right kidney due to drop in function we would just do the transplant when we take out the remaining kidney. We realized we aren't a part of the conversation though when that decision gets made. The transplant team will discuss it and our only decision would be to not do the surgery at all. We were told our opinion would be taken into consideration. Dave and I like having control, especially when it comes to our kiddos. This did not sit well with either of us. In case you are wondering what is involved in a kidney transplant: Animated Kidney Transplant Video

Finally, we aren't exactly sure when all of this will happen now. Logan's numbers improved with his latest blood work. We are still moving forward with finding a donor but were told if his numbers stay high we may not look at transplant until they drop back down. The roller coaster continues.

Logan was on our local news station, WCPO, two weeks ago sharing his book and his story with his classmates. Here is the link if you missed it. WCPO Logan's Bumpy Kidneys

There seems to always be some good news with some bad news. We hold on to the good news as tightly as we can while using the bad news to ensure we are being realistic with our expectations.

As always we appreciate you keeping tabs on our family and this journey we all going through together.

Thanks,
Ann & Dave

Nothing but Smiles

 LAB WORK

Over the last 4 years, 6 months, and 22 days, Dave and I have learned so much about lab work and how to read the numbers. What we should worry about and what not to worry about. So much so that Logan's nephrologist, the Director of the Nephrology at Children's hospital, walked into Logan's appt. yesterday and asked us "So, what did you think"? Dave immediately jumped into 'his creatinine levels have gone down'. Logan dropped from 1.24 to 1.20 which was the largest improvement we had ever seen. I brought up his GFR has also improved 37 ml to 47 ml, again indicating a large improvement. Dave and I both knew this improvement didn't move him out of stage 3b renal failure, however it moved him away from stage 2 for now and that had all of us smiling, including the doctor. "The path to transplant will continue as he could just as quickly next month drop back down. We will line the donor up and once we have identified the candidate that donor should be viable for a year", the doc said. Then things got serious.

WORKING A LITTLE TOO HARD

Despite the comfort Dave and I have gained over the years we still get blindsided by data at least every six months. Logan's anemia has gotten much worse. This is due to hyperspleenism, common across patient's with kidney disease. As soon as the doc said this my mental Rolodex was flipping, trying to remember what it was and where had I heard it before. (most likely at one of the PKD Conventions) The look of befuddlement on our faces pushed the doctor forward with an explanation. The spleen is used to remove damaged red blood cells from the body. When it is "hyper" it goes crazy and removes even the healthy cells, causing anemia. Guess what? There is no fix for this issue either. The treatment is to pump Logan full of as many red blood cells as possible so even with the spleen removing cells he will be have enough to spare. This requires a weekly shot that Dave and I will learn how to administer to Logan.

DON'T GET TANGLED UP IN THE NUMBERS

Over the last month, Logan has been feeling so much better. He is not nauseous anymore now that he has a new iron supplement. He is managing all of his medicine himself and was actively listening at the doctor and reminded us he needed to add a pill to his intake last night. (Sadly, I did forget) His appetite has returned. He has grown .6 inches in 2 months which is more than he has grown in the last 2 years. He was the most excited about that one. 

Logan is a giver by nature. He gives smiles and hugs to complete strangers, but if he knows you, his arms wrap a little tighter and his smile is a little brighter. This giving nature even applies when it comes to his blood type, O+. Logan contracted this disease randomly with a 1/20,000 chance. I do not know why I was so certain with only a 25% chance of being O+ that Logan would be anything else but. The kid is determined to be unique. Logan is a universal donor which means he can donate his blood and his organs to anyone. The flip side of this is that he can only receive organs from those with blood type O. This has greatly reduced our candidates for being his donor. Please let us know if you are willing to be tested if you know you are blood type O or if you are uncertain of your blood type. 

Thank you for continuing to keep up with Logan's and the entire Wiesman family's journey. 

We feel your support daily.

Ann & Dave

Donor Considerations

We have been over-inundated with data since Friday. Friday morning I reached out to the transplant coordinator and it's official! My insurance has approved the Doctor's order for a transplant. It was confirmed that I am not a valid candidate for donation which was not surprising news. I happily and quickly settled into my role as advocate on steroids. I ensured that the coordinator ordered the blood work for Logan's first two matching tests for today, Monday, when we were already going to be doing other blood work. I also requested that she schedule the rest of his evaluations for this coming Thursday and Friday. While I won on the blood work, the latter is scheduled for January 26th and 27th.

Immediately following that I called the life donation coordinator. We talked for 30 minutes on what a donor can expect. Below is the criteria and considerations for being a donor. We have had so many people offer to get tested for Logan but after hearing what is involved please read through the below and reach out to me if you still want to donate.

Below are automatic eliminators for all donors:

• Age: First Round (Must be 18-50) Second Round (51-55)
• BMI: <35% :  BMI Calculator
• Blood Type: Logan is O+ so all donors will have to be Type O (Please consider getting testing if you aren't certain)
• If you have or have had: Cancer, CKD, Diabetes, or Hepatitis 
• High Blood Pressure - even if controlled with medication

Process (2-3 weeks):

• Blood Work: Blood Match - has to be O; Tissue type matching
• Only 1 person at a time moves on: CT Scan - where they check the physiology mapping
• Complete Medical Evaluation
• Psycho-Social Evaluation 

Other considerations:

• 2-4 days of healing in the hospital
• 4-6 weeks of recovery at home - Short Term Disability and FMLA may be required. 
• 2-3 weeks after surgery all checkups/follow up appointments are covered by my insurance BUT the remainder of the 2 years worth of followups are from the donor's insurance. 

We are giving you all of this data so that you have as much information as possible to make a decision. After reading this if you are still interested and not eliminated by any of the bullet points listed above please reach out to me one final time to commit to being tested. 

Right now we have Dave, April (my sister), and Jude (my brother) being tested. 

As always thanks for supporting us and we will have a more specific Logan update on Wednesday night.

Ann & Dave.

Processing the transplant game plan

Our Hearts

From the responses I received in my last post, "The Time has Come...", I realized I was overly factual and didn't speak to how the family was feeling with this news. That is how my mind works when it comes to PKD and my family. I am black and white. I am either allowing emotion to overrun the practical, tactical, and actionable side of myself or I am solely focused on the “game plan” and how, what, and when we need to take actions to get ourselves from here to there. Let’s see how I do when I try to blend the two together.

Hearing my child has a life-threatening disease really has to be one of the absolute worst feelings in the world. Hearing there is NOTHING I can do to help my child was debilitating for me. I am inherently a person of action. Telling me to wait for anything is going to be met with some anger and frustration. This particular case was no different, and the emotional outrage that I had toward having to wait for Logan’s health to fail was put towards raising awareness, fundraising for research, and reaching out to others to find and provide support. 

Upon hearing we were ready to start the transplant process, joy consumed me to the point of being manic. All of the effort I had put into fundraising and awareness weren’t filling the void I had in my core from being able to tangibly help Logan.  While this direction is not ideal, it is inevitable and I am beyond thankful that we are taking steps to get him healthy.  My entire being is a healthy balance of being excited and terrified. There are risks and uncertainty. What if the 25 named people we have on the list aren’t a match? What if the 3^rd person is a good match and we move forward but person number 17, whom we’ll never get to test, would have been a perfect match and would have decreased his needs for anti-rejection medicine? What if they remove both kidneys and the transplanted kidney doesn’t take and he has to go on dialysis? The ‘what ifs’ are endless.  My mind spends a lot of time mulling these over again and again in my mind. My heart is happy and eager to move forward.

 

As for me being a donor, my mom came to my rescue. Five years ago, when we first found out about Logan, my mom gave me a write up from Aug 6, 1986 (typed on a typewriter) on what my kidney issues were and what procedures I had done to resolve them. My mom had requested this documentation from the nurse and had it signed by my nephrologist at the time. This document that my mother thought to keep for 30 years, in case I might need it, is one of the most thoughtful gifts I have received in my lifetime. This document has been shared with the transplant team and Logan’s nephrologist and they are reviewing whether or not I should be considered for a potential donor.  I have had a partial nephrectomy of my right kidney and my left kidney has two ureter tubes that are tied into one and happen to be flowing the correct direction down to my bladder.  In my head I know I am too risky for an already risky procedure. The parent in me says “take both of my kidneys” as long as Logan is healthy. I would prefer I be on dialysis instead of him.

Logan knows everything that we know. He knows he is ready to start the process to get a new kidney to get healthy. We are presenting this news to him with excitement and happiness. There is no reason for him to worry about things as he doesn’t have another path to choose from.  We want him to focus on the positive of getting healthy. After we told him he immediately asked if the doctors were going to use his ear skin to build him another kidney. Dave and I looked at him perplexed. He went on to explain we had read him ‘a story’ (news article) about scientists that had regrown a pig’s kidney with skin from the pig’s ear. That was about a year ago. The kid forgets nothing. He was visibly disappointed. We told him that his Uncle Jude and Daddy were eager beavers to be the best kidney candidate for Logan. Logan thought about it for a while and decided he would take Uncle Jude’s because he gets to see Daddy every day and this would allow him to have a piece of Uncle Jude with him everywhere. Melt. Logan and I calculated how old I was when I had my surgery (7 years and 128 days) and what date we would need to have his surgery for him to be the exact same age, Feb. 5, 2017.  Logan will be most likely older and wiser than I was when I had my surgery. 😄

Logan has expressed nervousness when it comes to the surgery itself which we have told him is a normal emotion and have reassured him, and ourselves on some level, that the doctors are experts at kidney transplants for kiddos so he is in good hands. Logan has been insistent on getting his picture taken with his bumpy kidneys once they are out of him. Mommy has some work to do to figure out how to make that happen. Logan also believes that once he gets his transplant he will no longer have to take as many medicines.  Currently, he is taking 7 pills a day. We have explained the medicines will be different but he will still be taking meds.  He is very disappointed that the medicines seem to have no end.

Ethan has been a great big brother. He doesn’t understand why he can’t be a donor. He told Daddy his kidneys were too big for Logan and that his would be a perfect fit.  J Melt again. Ethan is struggling to determine how he fits into this kidney picture. He knows he is supposed to look out for his brother but he doesn’t seem to know exactly what that means. He does more than he realizes by giving him very special memories of the two of them playing (and fighting) together.

So overall, the family is trying to determine what this new phase of this disease looks like and how best to navigate it. We are leaning on friends who have been through this already as well as those friends and family who are waiting for us to pick up the phone and tell them how to help. The adventure continues and we are so lucky to have so many people rooting for and supporting us.

Hugs and Love and a happy holiday season to everyone,

Ann & Dave

"The time has come" The Walrus said.

This kiddo is heading for transplantation. We meet this news with uncertainty, fear, and hope. Logan has been taking a very bad turn since July. He is very thin, anemic, uncontrollable blood pressure, and the onset of bone disease. Dave and I got this news on Monday and reacted quickly working with his doctor. 

His doctor is amazing and we are so lucky to live in Cincinnati for Children's Hospital. We had an hour strategy session this morning. Dr. D has expedited all of Logan's paperwork in the course of 2 days and Logan is now at the front of the line for transplant process in Cincinnati. We have a lot of work to do before he can be ready for surgery. He is on a new slew of medicines: minoxidil and amlodipine for blood pressure, calcitrate for his bone disease, and a new iron supplement that hopefully will stop making him throw up or feel nauseous all the time. 

We have a dedicated social worker, a transplant coordinator, and a living donor coordinator to help walk us through this process. The transplant coordinator has started negotiations with the insurance company and should have sign off from them by the beginning of January to begin donor testing. The first week of January we are hoping to get Dave and I tested. I am almost positive neither one of us will be viable candidates as I have mutant kidneys and Dave is close to 50 which is the cutoff age for consideration. However, we both feel like it is important for us to make sure we aren't candidates. We are allowed to have three people in the testing process at once. Logan will go through 2 days of testing as well after we get him ready for surgery. 

After this testing the entire transplant team will decide if his red blood cells are functioning properly. Right now Logan has massive bruising all over his legs. We don't know if they are caused by being a 7 year old or if they are caused by his red blood cells not functioning properly. If it is the latter he will need to get injections to "activate" his red blood cells. The team will also be making decisions on a single or double nephrectomy. This is the removal of one or both kidneys. Both of Logan's kidneys have lengths equal to the length of my head, yes we measured. There is no room for a 3rd kidney.  Currently he still has some function, so keeping one would be a safety net.  If the transplant failed he may not have to go straight away to dialysis. However the bad kidneys are responsible for his bone disease, high blood pressure, and can still grow with cysts while they stay inside him. 

The doctor informed us that sometimes with the new kidney the blood flow will choose the path of least resistance and funnel only to the new kidney. This will cause the PKD kidney to shrivel up over time. This is not guaranteed but would be the best outcome if one of the PKD kidneys is left behind. 

Taking out both kidneys feels ideal but it does make us nervous as we never want him to have to go on dialysis.  So... no safety net. 

We are excited that we are no longer waiting to take action. The next 3 months are going to be stressful and your support will mean more now than ever.  

BECAUSE IT SUCKS!

Hugs and Love,
Ann & Dave